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Giles Hellyer (1835-1910)

Mariner, Crimea Veteran and Lock keeper

Early life

Giles Hellyer was born on 3rd March 1835 in Weymouth.  His father, William and mother Martha, had moved to the coast in the previous decade, taking to the sea rather than the land for employment.  This was a time of great change, particularly in agriculture, where mechanisation and the introduction of the Corn Laws were causing unemployment resulting in some civil uprisings including the Swing Riots.  On the other hand, maritime trade was increasing, and in addition Weymouth was becoming a popular resort with resulting prosperity.

 

Giles was the youngest son of William and Martha. Neither of his parents would appear to have received any education as they seemed illiterate, marking documents with a cross. His two older brothers may have followed their father into maritime occupations, but there is no trace of them as adults.  His two sisters, Agnes and Martha, died relatively young (aged 36 and 20) so Giles was the only one to survive to his forties.

 

A good deal of Giles’ life is documented in an obituary in a local paper of Erith. 

 

Coming of a Weymouth family, Mr. Hellyer was born at that town on March 3rd 1835.  His youth was certainly not spent in luxury, for at the age of 8½ years, as he often recalled, he started work at one shilling a week.

 

According to the 1841 census, at the age of 6 he was living at Carters Cottages, Melcombe Regis, with his parents older and siblings Agnes (15), William (14) and Joseph (10). By 1851 they had moved to Little George Street  - William and Joseph had left so Giles was there with his parents, sisters. Martha’s widowed mother, Dinah Vivian, who was at this time 83 years old lived next door and was described as a pauper.  Dinah’s husband, John, a labourer, had died in 1846.

 

The Crimean War

His obituary continues:

 

When eighteen years old he enlisted in the Navy.  A faded blue service paper in the possession of his widow shows that he joined HMS Highflyer [a 1900 ton screw propelled frigate] on January 28, 1853, the ship’s captain reading John Moore.

The Highflyer was the first ship to land troops, and Giles Hellyer was in the first party that effected a landing at the opening of the Crimean War.

 

He was on active service throughout that terrific struggle of arms without receiving a single wound.  His duty lay in the trenches and from the first engagement to the last the young seaman was an assistant of Miss Florence Nightingale in her heroic work of succouring the wounded.  He had to the last a vivid recollection of the privations undergone by his comrades and himself, and in their simple narration could bring tears to the eyes.  His most cherished possessions were two medals with four clasps bearing the names Balaclava, Sebastopol, Inkerman and Alma.

 

His service paper shows that he rejoined the Highflyer, and on May 15 1857, was transferred to HMS Majestic under Captain Hope.  Three days after joining that vessel, he with other seamen aboard, was called upon deck to see a flogging: and despite the nature of his previous experiences, he never recollected without horror the shrieks of men under the lash.

 

He would therefore appear to have served with some distinction, especially in his association with Florence Nightingale

 

Marriage – Anna Maria Bridle

In 1859, at the age of 24, he married Anna Maria Bridle, the second daughter of William Runyard Bridle and his wife Ann (nee Parker). The Bridles lived in Spyway, a group of cottages in the parish of Affpuddle, a village about 15 miles from Weymouth, sitting on the river Piddle.  William was a woodman, and he and Ann had nine children, although the parish register clearly states that William had another daughter, Maria, christened two weeks after Mary Agnes.

 

The wedding was held in Affpuddle on 10 May, and the register shows that Anna Maria, or Annie as she was later known, was living at “Akers Wood”, which is probably “Oakers Wood”.

 

So how did they meet? Annie lived in the depth of the country, whilst Giles lived in Weymouth for the short periods when he was not at sea.  In the 1851 census there is a  grocer, John Bridle, also living in Little George Street.  Whilst not a close relation, it is possible that relatives from elsewhere, including Annie, may have visited them in Weymouth, and hence this maybe is how she met Giles.

By 1861 they had moved to Weymouth and the census that year shows they were living back in Little George Street, his father William having moved to nearby Park Street.   Giles (described as a sailor) and Annie were now joined by their first child, a daughter Martha,born the previous year. 

 

Merchant Vessels

On his return from the Crimea he served for the next 20 years or so on various merchant vessels, but mainly the “Marnhull”,  a 114 ton coaster.  After his initial service as crew, he served as First Mate, transporting various cargoes such as coal between ports in England, Ireland, Jersey and France.  During this period, ending in 1973, he and Annie had a further six children as follows:

1861    Daughter         Mary Agnes

1864    Son                  William Giles

1866    Daughter         Emily Maria    

1868    Son                  Joseph George   (died 1870)   

1870    Son                  James John     

1874    Daughter         Kate Louisa

 

In 1875 Giles was 40,  and retired from life at sea.  His father (now aged 70) at the same time obtained a place at the ‘Belvedere Hospital for Worn-out and Disabled Merchant Seamen’ near Erith in Kent.  Giles and his family moved at the same time to Rotherhithe, where Giles took up the post of lock gate keeper on the Grand Surrey Canal connecting South London to the Thames.

 

Rotherhithe

The move to Rotherhithe had a tragic start as the youngest child, Kate Louisa, died within a year of the move.  A further two children were born soon after,  Harry George in 1876 and Alice Florence in 1878, but they both died before their 5th birthday, Harry in 1878 and Florence in 1882.  In addition to these three childhood deaths, eldest daughter Ann Martha died in 1881 at the age of 20, leaving just four of the seven who had made then move from Weymouth.

 

In 1881 the family were living at 22 Thames Street Rotherhithe, which was in the area around Commercial Dock Rotherhithe close to the Surrey Canal although it has not been possible to identify its exact location.   The occupants were:

 

Giles Hellyer    (46) Lock gate man     b Weymouth

            Annie   Hellyer (44).                            b Weymouth  [sic]

            Mary   Hellyer (19)                             b Weymouth

            William Hellyer (16). Letter porter     b Weymouth

            Emily   Hellyer (14)                             b Weymouth

            James  Hellyer (10)                             b Weymouth

            Alice    Hellyer (2)                               b Rotherhithe

Ann Berridge (71)                               b Rotherhithe. 

 

Ann Berridge was a lodger, so there were 8 occupants of the property, one of whom was an infant. Looking back to the previous census in 1871, Ann Berridge appears there as a lodger elsewhere and is described as a nurse, so it could be that she assisted in the care of the children, especially the infant Alice. 

 

Frank is a puzzle, as he does not appear on the census, but a Frank William Hellyer was born to Ann Martha Hellyer, a domestic servant, in St Pancras on 19th May 1879, with no father recorded on the birth or baptism register. This must be him, as a boy with that name and date of birth appears admissions register for Dalmatian Road School in Lewisham on 7th February 1892. His address is given as 2, York Place, Elgin Road, where the Hellyers were living at the time. So it turns out that before Ann Martha died, on 13th March 1881 of phthisis (tuberculosis), she had an illegitimate son who later was adopted by Giles and Annie as their own child

 

Births and deaths continued amongst the children – Alice died in 1882 but two further daughters were born, Rosina in 1881 and Ellen Edith in 1883.  So by this point Annie had given birth to no fewer than 12 children, but only 7 of these were still alive at the next census in 1891.  They were then living at  2, York Place, in the same area of Rotherhithe.  Frank, Rosey (as she is called on the census) and Ellen were living with them. 

 

Mary Agnes had married Herbert Barham in 1882, and was living in Charlton where Herbert was a builder’s foreman in what is now the Rectory Fields conservation area. They had produced three children of their own, Herbert William (1886), Edgar Percival (1887 - my grandfather) and Harry Giles (1899), the first of Giles and Annie’s grandchildren.

 

In December 1995 he sent a letter to my grandfather, on the occasion of his 8th birthday.

 

Rotherhithe December 19/95

Dear Grand Son

I now rite you these few lines wishing you many happy Returns of your birthday and we hoping that God will bless you and keep you in good health to enjoy many of them and hoping you will obey father and mother and be a good boy and grow up to be a good man.

Bless you and except all your aunts and uncles Best Wishes and kindly Remember us to all your dear Brothers.  Kiss them for us and remember us to your uncle and aunt WSA.

And now dear Grand son I conclude these few lines with love to your dear father and mother so Believe us to remain your ever loving Grandfather and Grandmother.

G & A Hellyer.

xxxxxxxxxxxx

 

 

By 1901 all the children except Rosey and Nellie had left home, so the census that year shows the four of them were living at 13, Odessa Steet, Rotherhithe and Giles is still described as “Lock gate man”.

 

He continued this work  until 4th February 1905 when he retired, as recorded in the next section of his obituary.

 

His total service in the Navy extended to twenty-five years.  After his retirement on pension, he went to work, not skilled and for thirty years was there employed as a lock gateman. An oaken smoking cabinet which he was presented when he left the Docks bears the following inscription on a brass plate:

“Presented to Mr. Giles Hellyer, as a mark of esteem, by the dockmasters and fellow workmen, after thirty years service as Lockgateman at the Surrey Commercial Docks, Superannuated February 4th 1905.”

Accompanying the gift was a memorial bearing 100 signatures.  That was the first subscription testimonial ever presented at the Surrey Commercial Docks.

 

Belvedere

Following his retirement, Giles and Annie moved to 16, Upper Grove Road, Belvedere, near Erith.  Their eldest son, William Giles lived close by, at 58, Barnfield Road – this was not far from the Royal Alfred home that Giles’ father, William had moved to 30 years earlier.

The next census in 1911 shows that Giles and Annie were living in Upper Grove Road, together with a domestic servant, Elizabeth Howell, aged 38.

 

Giles lived for another year, dying on 20th October 1912 of “Congestion of the lungs, syncope”. The informant was his son William.

 

The final section of his obituary states:

Mr. Hellyer’s widow, an active old lady of 76 years, who celebrated her golden wedding three years ago, is as well As can be expected after her loss..  She has had twelve children,, of whom seven - three sons and four daughters,  - are living.

The funeral takes place to-day (Friday).  There will be a service at 3 pm at All Saints’ the Parish Church of Belvedere, conducted by the Vicar, the Rev. W.R.Hardwright.  A naval funeral could have been held, but in accordance with the wish of the widow, the coffin will simply be covered with a Union Jack.

 

Annie’s last days

Anna-Maria, Giles’ widow, lived for nearly twenty years after his death. She moved in with her youngest daughter, Nellie Brend, who was now living with her family in New Malden, Surrey. Nellie’s husband, Albert Brend, was a builder and was also born in Rotherhithe.  The 1921 census shows that as well as the four children (boys aged 6-15) Albert’s uncle George (60) a retired decorator was also living with them.

 

Annie finally died on 7th March 1932, aged 95. She was living at 66, Barnsfield Road, Belvedere, but died at 37, West Hill, Dartford (West Hill Hospital?) and the informant was her daughter Rosina, who at this time was living at 148, Knockholt Road, Greenhithe.

As noted in Giles’ obituary, she had twelve children, but as it turns out, Frank was actually her grandson who was quickly, at least informally, adopted as her own child.

 

My father, John Percival Barham, who himself lived to the age of 96, once told me that he remembered meeting her, in hospital in Dartford. He described her as a little lady with white hair in pigtails. So as a boy, he met his great grandmother, who had been born before Queen Victoria came to the throne.